Who Am I?
I am approaching the half century mark in life and for the first time I am going through an exercise to explore exactly who I am. This may sound weird to most of you, but have you ever really gotten to know yourself? I suppose several methods could be used to do this but I am writing down things I like and things I dislike about myself. I have recently realized that I have certain insecurities that are unhealthy to not only myself, but also my relationship with others, especially my wife. I have a gorgeous wife who is full of life, smart, sensitive, curious, and just plain fun to be with. But I have come to realize I cannot truly love her if I do not love myself. Do you love yourself? Think about it.
I think that most us get into a routine where we go through life day after day, year after year, and never really think about who we are. We are too busy, or we are always looking at others and we do this in order to not look at ourselves. I have finally stopped long enough to do this and let me tell you it can be quite liberating. As I am figuring out what I like and what I dislike about myself, I am forgiving myself for things that I have done in my life that I dislike and this is truly getting rid of baggage. This type of self-examination takes time so I am being patient. I have read that you can’t truly love someone else if you don’t love yourself. It makes sense when you think about it. This is also allowing me to address my insecurities and face my demons. Hopefully I will come out of this a better person, which in turn makes me a better husband and father.
I am not trying to get mushy, just wanting to share this so if anyone reads it they might think about things and not wait as long as I have to do this. We all have issues, we all have things about ourselves we need to address. Have the courage to do this and you will find it very rewarding.
Positive quote of the day:
He who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger.
--Japanese proverb
Garza
I think that most us get into a routine where we go through life day after day, year after year, and never really think about who we are. We are too busy, or we are always looking at others and we do this in order to not look at ourselves. I have finally stopped long enough to do this and let me tell you it can be quite liberating. As I am figuring out what I like and what I dislike about myself, I am forgiving myself for things that I have done in my life that I dislike and this is truly getting rid of baggage. This type of self-examination takes time so I am being patient. I have read that you can’t truly love someone else if you don’t love yourself. It makes sense when you think about it. This is also allowing me to address my insecurities and face my demons. Hopefully I will come out of this a better person, which in turn makes me a better husband and father.
I am not trying to get mushy, just wanting to share this so if anyone reads it they might think about things and not wait as long as I have to do this. We all have issues, we all have things about ourselves we need to address. Have the courage to do this and you will find it very rewarding.
Positive quote of the day:
He who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger.
--Japanese proverb
Garza
posted by Garza at 6:37 AM
6 Comments:
Hi Garza, thanks for visiting my blog ;)
At least you have the courage to take a look at yourself and try to figure things out. There nothing wrong with being serious now and again, especially if it makes sense. :o)
You can not imagine how u made me feel with this blog. I am on a journey of self discovery as well.. All my blogs are attmepts to look deeper with in to find the true me. Not the wife, the friend , or the Mother .. but the me inside ... My desires, my goals, me. Please keep in touch.. Itll be nice to share our discoveries together... Really I truly enjoyed your blog.. Furthermore, i was just going to blog yesterday on the inabilities to love someone if you dont truly love your self. Becuz, if you dont love yourself you'll never really give the person your whole being.. And that is what I think love is.. Giving your whole selves to one another.. But I dont know who my whole self is yet..
Thanx again.
Xoxoxoxo, Lady
nicky is right - it's hard taking a step back and really looking at yourself, and really trying to see who you are - and learning to accept yourself.
it may be a long, hard journey, but it's worth it - being comfortable with who you are makes dealing with life a lot easier and more enjoyable.
good luck
Hi Garza,
Thanks for the comment. Welcome to the blogosphere. Warning, Will Robinson! It can be addicting.
I don't know if you have an organized model for self-examination, but the 12-Step approach to personal inventory was useful to me at tone time.
Thanks to everyone for their kind comments. Your support means the world to me.
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